Red is Dead Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I saw the thread, saw the last poster and my heart sank. I cannot even begin to understand what yuo're going through natural. if you do need to vent, gimme a shout. I'm fairly sure in saying that you're one of the top guys here, so we'll be able to help you through, even if we talk about something else for a while. stay strong man. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyle Casey Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 I usually don't post if what I have to say has already been said, but I want to add my voice in lending support to you, Natural. You're one of the best guys on this board, and I'm genuinely saddened by what you're going through. Be strong, man. If you need to talk, I'll be around. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Super Ape Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 Stay strong, Natural. Spoiler warning: Improper slang use always wins out over the language purists. This debate is centuries old in English, and the end results are always in favor of common usage over proper usage. So, this will literally be the way it is going forward, and in a few decades, or maybe a century, nobody will even know it was wrong once. For years after graduating, I tried to prove to myself that I didn't waste an English degree. This all proves, once and for all, that I did. Thank god for online IT degrees. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Natural Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 Thanks guys, appreciate it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zimbra Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 Fuck my roommate for going full-on crazy on me right after we signed a new lease and as a new roommate is getting ready to move in. And fuck me for ignoring all the warning signs that this was going to happen and signing a lease anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Magnificent 7 Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 This story needs some details, homey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zimbra Posted August 20, 2013 Share Posted August 20, 2013 It's not entertaining, just sad. If you have good mental health then thank your lucky stars because mental illness is an absolute motherfucker. So now I'm left with the choice of 1) Getting her kicked out of the house. Which wouldn't be hard, but would leave her homeless as she has no job and has alienated pretty much all of her family and friends or 2) Bailing on an incredibly cheap rental that's in one of the most beautiful parts of one of the most beautiful cities in the country. Not to mention on our new roommate, who is just moving to town and I've known since 2nd grade or 3) Spending a(nother) year living with a mentally ill alcoholic. Fuck me for trying to see the best in people. And fuck you to the refurb TV I bought off of Woot that showed up with a busted screen. I knew that shit was too good to be true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bustronaut Posted August 20, 2013 Author Share Posted August 20, 2013 Woot is very good about replacing this stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jerry Hattrick Posted August 21, 2013 Share Posted August 21, 2013 My deepest condolances to you Natural. My mom and I are so close (although we argue quite a bit, lol), I coundn't imaging the pain of seeing my mom suffer. She is 61 and I stay at home since I moved back from Jacksonville, FL to help her with chores and finaces. ( I moved back due to my Grandma being ill, G'ma passed away 3 weeks after I came back to Ohio, and I never moved back to FL).My dad? Well that whole different story altogether. He was never there for me, so I have no emotional attachment towards him, as sad as that sounds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Natural Posted August 21, 2013 Share Posted August 21, 2013 Thanks, Shaun Gilbert. I'm very close to my Mum, it's hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick B. Posted August 22, 2013 Share Posted August 22, 2013 Fuck you, everything about me. Seems like I'm just a pile of regrets these days. I started out as a computer science major in college, but I had one rough semester where I overdid my course load so I switched to mass communications with an eye on radio broadcasting. Went to broadcasting school and then worked at a smaller radio station in my area for several years with near-zero upward mobility. That job stint ended unceremoniously a few years ago and I wish I'd stuck it out with the computer thing as I don't seem to have much in the way of qualifications for any decent job. My mom passed away from lung cancer several years ago...I inherited the house and had to learn to live on my own pretty quickly in my late 20s. For a while, my financial situation was never great but never THAT bad either. I had a roommate for a little while, but she bailed on me without paying her last few months of rent and I had to use my credit card for some really big bills as a result. That turned into a slippery slope and I practically maxed out the card by the end of it...been paying for that over the past few years and had to sell off a ton of old keepsakes just to keep my car insured. My mental stability was never great...went on antidepressants a short time after my mom's death but had to go off them when my finances got bad and I was between health insurances. It's been an emotional roller coaster for a while now. Had always liked standup comedy and tried open-mics for a little while, but the scene got so crowded that I had trouble getting show spots and gradually stopped doing it. I made some friends through that, but when your funds are limited you can't drive to shows as much as you'd like. At the end of the day, I'm sitting here in this never-ending cycle of self-hatred with no idea how to get out of it. Will probably go back on meds once my money situation is a bit more balanced out, but I have no idea what to do with my life in my mid-30s. I imagine I'll go back to school for something or other, but my previous bright ideas about what to do with my life didn't really go so well. I have near-zero confidence in my own judgement, intelligence, or anything else. I got myself into this mess and I don't want to blame anyone else for it. I just have no idea how to get out of it. Sorry for the self-indulgent venting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Magnificent 7 Posted August 22, 2013 Share Posted August 22, 2013 Medicine will not fix external problems. If that's the real source of your troubles (debt, job situation, etc.), there are ways to fix them. Just don't expect them to be instantaneous and hang in there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Natural Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Sorry PowerPB13, hope things work out for you. My Mum had her worst day yesterday so I did as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victator Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Fuck you, everything about me. Seems like I'm just a pile of regrets these days. I started out as a computer science major in college, but I had one rough semester where I overdid my course load so I switched to mass communications with an eye on radio broadcasting. Went to broadcasting school and then worked at a smaller radio station in my area for several years with near-zero upward mobility. That job stint ended unceremoniously a few years ago and I wish I'd stuck it out with the computer thing as I don't seem to have much in the way of qualifications for any decent job. My mom passed away from lung cancer several years ago...I inherited the house and had to learn to live on my own pretty quickly in my late 20s. For a while, my financial situation was never great but never THAT bad either. I had a roommate for a little while, but she bailed on me without paying her last few months of rent and I had to use my credit card for some really big bills as a result. That turned into a slippery slope and I practically maxed out the card by the end of it...been paying for that over the past few years and had to sell off a ton of old keepsakes just to keep my car insured. My mental stability was never great...went on antidepressants a short time after my mom's death but had to go off them when my finances got bad and I was between health insurances. It's been an emotional roller coaster for a while now. Had always liked standup comedy and tried open-mics for a little while, but the scene got so crowded that I had trouble getting show spots and gradually stopped doing it. I made some friends through that, but when your funds are limited you can't drive to shows as much as you'd like. At the end of the day, I'm sitting here in this never-ending cycle of self-hatred with no idea how to get out of it. Will probably go back on meds once my money situation is a bit more balanced out, but I have no idea what to do with my life in my mid-30s. I imagine I'll go back to school for something or other, but my previous bright ideas about what to do with my life didn't really go so well. I have near-zero confidence in my own judgement, intelligence, or anything else. I got myself into this mess and I don't want to blame anyone else for it. I just have no idea how to get out of it. Sorry for the self-indulgent venting. If one of your problems is a chemical imbalance, you need to get that fixed first. You can't fix anything else, if you are wrong on the inside. I'm very sorry to hear what has happened to you. I wish I had better insight to offer. For the short term, I would look to whatever small things can give you comfort. It does sound like a lot, but life is made of the little things. For now, try to repair things that are within your immediate control and try to forget about the things that are not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Sorrow Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Fuck you to the customer at the club I work at,( yes. the strip club), who walked up to the stage while one of the dancers who is black was up there and said " Hey look at the n----r." We kicked his ass out, but she's really upset. These girls have to put up with all kinds of bullshit coming out of the mouths of the fucknuts that are our clientele but that's too fucking much. Who fucking does that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victator Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Was he beaten as well as ejected. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Sorrow Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Was he beaten as well as ejected. If I had my way he would have been, but this isn't Atlantic City. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick B. Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Thanks for the feedback. It's a monumental task to motivate myself in any regard these days...that just adds to the self-hatred because I know I should be doing housework/yardwork, looking for a better/second job, etc. It doesn't help that I feel like NOTHING is within my control these days. I spent a year and a half whittling down my credit card debt, not even touching the card for any reason, but then I had to use credit cards for home/car repairs so that was another setback. Natural: I can definitely sympathize. My mom had lung cancer and it seemed like things would be okay, but she took a bad turn literally overnight...the next thing I knew, she was gone. That was several years ago and I still don't think I've mentally recovered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingus Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 PowerPB13: write. It helps me. Doesn't matter what. Blogs, fanfic, porn, legit literary stuff trying for publication, whatever. Just get your thoughts down on paper. Fuck you, regional manager of the North Dallas Walmarts. My mom works in one of these stores (parttime, natch), and it's TERRIBLE, the worst I've ever seen. I've worked at a Walmart which was really nice and run as a pretty tight ship, and shopped at many which were perfectly acceptable. Not this hellhole. Her schedule is constantly being fucked with; they keep putting her on night shifts, despite the fact that she keeps giving them doctors' notes that say she can't drive at night with her bad vision. Today I happened to be in there and wanted to buy a DVD of Les Miserables. They had NONE. On the shelf, anyway, nobody was willing to look in the back. (The two employees I asked didn't recognize the title AT ALL, I had to explain to them what it was.) The only guy working in electronics was a dude who didn't even have a proper uniform shirt, he was wearing some kind of bright orange shit. First he tried looking in the CD section, along with a mumbled incoherent response as to why this made sense to him. Then he told me that he'd already tried to help a guy find a copy earlier today and failed, and actually started telling me other nearby places where I could buy it. I was flabbergasted; never in my life have I had an employee literally tell me not to shop in his store. The whole damn place was like that, half the shelves were empty. The aisle marked "CANNED PASTA" has no canned pasta. The "scan your item's price here" doohickeys are mislabeled and never work correctly. The produce section (where I worked at the other store) was hideous, we would've gotten written up if ours had ever resembled that. The guy assisting the self-checkouts literally walked off in the middle of a problem during our sale and left me to guess what the hell to do next. I used to be a meek little willing victim, like my mother. A dozen years of hanging around drunken wrestlers and angry lesbians have cured me of those tendencies, and now I am a vengeful motherfucker. I used my Google-Fu to actually track down the home phone number (for free!) of the regional manager who is theoretically The Man over all the stores in this area. Oh yes, I called that number at 9:45 PM. He's a corporate bigshot, it's Friday, no way he's asleep right? Someone who sounds suspiciously like a Hispanic maid or nanny picks up the phone. I ask to speak to The Man, she asks who I am, I give her my name and tell her it's in regard to this particular store (vague enough but business-like enough that hopefully he'll give it a shot). All I hear is "No..." and an attempted CLICK, because whoever this is apparently doesn't know how to correctly hang up on someone, and I hear background noise and a couple of numbers being dialed before it finally shuts off for real. After that, I gave up. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burgundy LaRue Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 All hail King Jingus! Bow down, blouses! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
driver Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 A big hearty FUCK YOU to the neighbor who feels he has to drive through my yard so he can park in his own yard. He does this because he has two vehicles parked back to back in front of his house leaving himself no room to pull into his yard. And instead of parking on the street he drives through my yard to be able to park in his own yard, He received a cease and desist letter today, It will be interesting to see if he complies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin Wilson Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 A big hearty FUCK YOU to the neighbor who feels he has to drive through my yard so he can park in his own yard. He does this because he has two vehicles parked back to back in front of his house leaving himself no room to pull into his yard. And instead of parking on the street he drives through my yard to be able to park in his own yard, He received a cease and desist letter today, It will be interesting to see if he complies. Hide some spike strips in your yard near his yard. This solution may not be realistic if you have children and/or a dog. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Biz Smarkie Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 Maaannn... at my Wal-Mart people get fired for doing half of the stuff you just mentioned Jingus The store I work at is like the best one in the state and have had ten or more people promoted to zone manager or higher since I started there two years ago. The only thing really bad about the store I work at is sometimes we have lazy stockers, and some of the bosses are douchey. And Natural...keep your head up dude. I lost both of my parents a few years ago and the worst part was watching their health fail them both. Once they passed (my mom went three months before my dad) I actually felt relieved after the initial grieving period. They weren't suffering any more, and that made things a whole lot easier. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
driver Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 A big hearty FUCK YOU to the neighbor who feels he has to drive through my yard so he can park in his own yard. He does this because he has two vehicles parked back to back in front of his house leaving himself no room to pull into his yard. And instead of parking on the street he drives through my yard to be able to park in his own yard, He received a cease and desist letter today, It will be interesting to see if he complies. Hide some spike strips in your yard near his yard. This solution may not be realistic if you have children and/or a dog. My solution was five black plastic fence stakes placed strategically. If this does not work the next step is to string up some cheap fencing across the stakes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Natural Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Thanks the1075thbestintheworld and Kevin Wilson making me chuckle. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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