Two different things here. First, most wrestlers that are passionate about the business watch a shit ton of wrestling. They just might taper off watching current television wrestling. Most good wrestlers will go out of their way to watch as much of the shows that they are on as possible. Especially on the indys, a lot of guys almost watch too much of their own footage, because they start picking up on things they do that maybe no one else notices. It is a fine line. Maybe a lot of guys in the WWE watch less, but that is understandable because of the travel and what not. But a lot of guys do watch from the curtain, or monitors in the back.
The second part is kinda associated with the following quote:
This is where the "I don't go to shows I'm not booked for" attitude comes from. It is okay to be a fan of wrestling, and to love the buisness, but at a point you have to stop acting like a ticket-buying fan, and acting like a professional. If you wanna watch Raw, no one is gonna give you any grief. However, if you watch it and wanna talk about how awesome something was or whatever, then you are gonna get ribbed for being a mark.
Furthermore, at one point when I was running a training school, I had training on Mondays & Wednesday nights. The backlash I got from guys wanting to be pro wrestlers but having to miss Raw was ridiculous. In turn, I have known guys that have turned down bookings because they had tickets to WWE shows. Even worse, I know a lot of guys who bitch about being light on bookings, but then go and pay to attend other local shows in their area. To me, that is crazy and unprofessional.
I know to a civilian it might seem odd, but wrestling is an odd business, and thoughout its history, it is built on secrecy and tradition. It is easy to say "Kayfabe is dead, those old ways are stupid and from a bygone era".... but look at how the business is now. You get out what you put in.
Yup, usually.
If you promote, hire solid talent, and use logic, things should work out.