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[The Natural]

On 5/8/2026 at 2:32 PM, The Natural said:

Hello there. I had my colonoscopy surgery yesterday. The prep was one of the worst of the four I've had. Same for the procedure with polyps found again which needed to be removed. I'm really fucking sore. Love, Paul xxx.

Today's been a bad one. Bleeding and pain. One of my worst since surgery. Fuckity fuck.

Edited May 15 by The Natural

[tbarrie]

20 hours ago, JLSigman said:

So I've not posted this on Facebook yet because Mom needs to call people, but....

...her kidneys are in full blown failure at this point. She's refusing dialysis. Her GP is calling us a hospice consult. It may not be soon, she's a tough old lady, but it's bad and it's not going to improve. 

Sorry to hear that, JL. I hope your mom beats the odds.

[Zimbra]

No more false finishes, Simon has gone on to the great nap in the sky.  We timed it just about perfectly as his back end really started to give out yesterday and he was having trouble getting around. But he had a last day full of sunbeams, laps, and albacore tuna.

In his honor please enjoy his life's work: thousands of overlapping drool stains from 12 years of sleeping in my wife's lap:

Thanks for sticking with me while I lost my mind over the last two months.

[The Natural]

5 hours ago, Zimbra said:

No more false finishes, Simon has gone on to the great nap in the sky.  We timed it just about perfectly as his back end really started to give out yesterday and he was having trouble getting around. But he had a last day full of sunbeams, laps, and albacore tuna.

In his honor please enjoy his life's work: thousands of overlapping drool stains from 12 years of sleeping in my wife's lap:

Thanks for sticking with me while I lost my mind over the last two months.

So sorry, mate. Virtual hugs.

[Robert C]

Police actually gave us an active shooter alert this time, unlike the previous two.   I thought that was nice of them  

Was a bit eerie hearing everyone’s phone start going nuts in Best Buy once, though. 

[Curt McGirt]

Christ, this is a heavy one. 

One of my best friends started throwing up every time he ate a couple months back. He was throwing up actual shit, because he was septic. He died in the ambulance and they revived him. Turned out, he had brain cancer. Not just brain cancer, but bowel cancer, and spots on his liver and I believe his kidneys. He's stage four. 

Yeah. 

I went and visited him today, right before we have to move tomorrow. I've known he had surgery and thought he was doing better and he says he has, but man, it's hard to tell. Half his body is fucked. Watching him try to use a fork is agonizing. Watching him try to walk is maybe worse. His speech is sped up, almost constant, like he can't get the words out fast enough, when he was usually pretty spaced-out (in more ways than one -- massive stoner for life) in his dialogue. But he's all there. He might have a hole in the back of his head, and possibly even a colostomy bag that he didn't mention to me but I'm guessing at from the bulge under his shirt at his waist, but he's 100% THERE. 

He's got a wife, two cats, a dog, and a 13 year old daughter. She was bringing her friends back and forth through the house with all of them giving us awkward, 13 year old "ugh these old people" glances the whole time haha. We had a meal -- he can eat, just not as much as usual -- and talked for two hours or so. I've known him for 20 years and feel like all the time we didn't speak was an incredible waste. 

Take inventory, kids. It can come at you like a freight train, or at somebody else, and you won't know and you won't know when, and you'll be sad if you miss out. Hug your peoples. 

EDIT: Note, he's still on the chemo and doing his best. He says he looks and is acting better than he was before. He says "it's a death sentence" but he isn't giving up hope. He's a hard old prick, a skater from the old school, and he'll keep trying that kickflip until he can't jump it anymore. 

Edited May 18 by Curt McGirt

[Nice Guy Eddie]

Tomorrow marks 20 years since my friend Jesse passed away. I still remember where I was when I got the call that he had passed. I was at Shea Stadium for a Yankees/Mets game. After Jesse passed, I beat myself up badly over his death. Jesse was massively overweight, but in 2002, I started walking at the high school track with Jesse and Mike, another friend who is also a big guy. We all lost weight together and looked good. After a while though, we fell back into old habits and stopped walking together regularly. Fast forward to 2006, Jesse suffered a fatal heart attack. I remember having a dream where Jesse came to me and told me, "It wasn't your fault." I just can't wrap my head around it that it's been 20 years. 

Edited May 20 by Nice Guy Eddie

[Technico Support]

The older you get, the more you find yourself thinking about the people you knew who are gone now.  It's a fucking gut punch, man.

[Contentious C]

Weird. I knew a guy from a public speaking class in undergrad who died, almost certainly from an OD. We weren't friends or anything, but it was surreal at the time, getting an email from the professor we'd had. I had forgotten his full name until looking back over this thread. And then it just popped back in there.

[Curt McGirt]

THIS is my back yard now. 

Spoiler

Center

Left

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Pretty wild...

[The Natural]

Found out yesterday my Spirals class is getting cancelled for good. Fucking gutted. I've talked before how much I enjoy Spirals even though it knackers me during it and the day after. Spirals combined Pilates, Yoga and Tai chi. I'm going to miss Christine the instructor and some classmates I've become friends with. Just waiting to be told when the final date is. I'm coming up to my two year anniversary this August.

Edited June 5 by The Natural

[driver]

Over the past eight months or so a coworker's mom had been on the decline due to dementia and lung cancer. On Monday he came in and said her hospice nurse had given her 1-3 months due to her decline over the weekend. On Tuesday he said they'd misdiagnosed her and were now giving her a month at the most. That day I was riding with him and I rambled on to keep his mind off of what reality was. His phone kept ringing and I knew it wasn't good news. My job that day was to keep him distracted so he wasn't being overwhelmed. Between the phone calls, pats on the shoulder and inane conversations we got back. He left to attend to his business and all I could say was nothing because I was fucking speechless.

[Shartnado]

8 hours ago, driver said:

Over the past eight months or so a coworker's mom had been on the decline due to dementia and lung cancer. On Monday he came in and said her hospice nurse had given her 1-3 months due to her decline over the weekend. On Tuesday he said they'd misdiagnosed her and were now giving her a month at the most. That day I was riding with him and I rambled on to keep his mind off of what reality was. His phone kept ringing and I knew it wasn't good news. My job that day was to keep him distracted so he wasn't being overwhelmed. Between the phone calls, pats on the shoulder and inane conversations we got back. He left to attend to his business and all I could say was nothing because I was fucking speechless.

Yeah, there are times when words just fail us and you just won't know what to say or won't get the words you do want to say out of you. If I had to guess, you just being there during that day was a big deal to him, when he looks back on it in the future. It sure would be for me! You did good.

Edited June 5 by Shartnado
typo

[driver]

It's the distractions that mean the most.

[Shartnado]

2 hours ago, driver said:

It's the distractions that mean the most.

You got that right. Came to my hometown and went to see my friend. Walked past the cemetery where my mother is buried. Didn't visit the grave today, but maybe tomorrow could be a good time?

[driver]

It's only a good time when you feel it is the time to do so.

[Cobra Commander]

back in 2020 when they were holding MLB games in empty ballparks, I thought it would be a good idea for a team to set up cameras in certain parts of the ballpark if people wanted to see the same from a part of the ballpark and pretend they're there live. Sorta like in the early days of Webcams being pointed at coffee pots and the such. Nobody did that, to my knowledge (they could have charged for it and sent the money to some sort of good cause too)

Just thought of that again because maybe somebody could just get a camera setup at courtside or whatever to experience the NBA Finals without requiring pain in the ass security to be there in person.

I think the same concept did sorta get over when somebody streamed the OU/Army game off the reflection of his glasses when they were putting that game on PPV.

Of course this concept would sorta undercut the necessity of paying a price equivalent to the GDP of an improvished nation to get into the arena in person.

[Mike Campbell]

Gotta love idiots and their (lack of) thought process. The county was repaving a road yesterday, just oil and rock being laid down and we didn't even close the damn thing off. We just had to run everything down one lane. Well, this guy was all bent out of shape over having to wait, and was talking shit to one of the guys who was making him wait. The lane is clear and the foreman was actually the one who sent him through. He gets to the other end of the road, stops at the sign and decides the obvious rational reaction to vent his frustration was to peel off on brand new road with loose gravel and tear it up, now requiring extra work to fix what he did.

 

And, between his shit talking and that little stunt, the road manager decided to call the sheriff's department and report his ass. Plus, there's a trucking company at the end of the road with security cameras that just happen to face that direction.

[The Natural]

My Uncle passed away a few days ago. Pneumonia like my late great Mum. It's 12 years this month for my Mum.

Edited Friday at 12:04 PM by The Natural

[driver]

Sorry for your loss Natty.

[The Natural]

57 minutes ago, driver said:

Sorry for your loss Natty.

Cheers, mate.