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  1. It can be a task sometimes.  One of the issues my daughter has is Occupation Defiant Disorder, and that leads to her having breakdowns that involve hurting herself, doing things like clawing or punching at her face or banging her head on the nearest surface.  It's scary as shit and tough to deal with sometimes. During meltdowns, the only thing I/we can do is to restrain her so that she can hit herself.  I've figured her out enough that I can see when see "checks out" and the real meltdown is about to happen, but I worry when she starts school next year, she's not going to have the adequate personnel to stop her in a kindly manner, which means that I'll have to go to the school and put the Fear of MADCAP into someone. Therapy is helping and will ultimately work, but being the worrysome guy that I am, I'll never be totally relaxed about her condition.

  2. I'm the father of a 4 year old autistic daughter, and while it can be really tough sometimes, I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.  I freaked out last year around this time when her mother and I got the diagnosis, trying to figure out why this happened and wondering if my old lifestyle had a part to do with her diagnosis. I had to be talked off the ledge by my friends(as well as some of the posters on this very board) until I could come to grips with it.  I don't feel sorry for her per se, but I feel bad that she has an upward battle, even though she's not gonna lose as long as she has me at her side.


    Her issues aside, I love the little things in life that she did, like saying "daddy" as her first words, or using the potty for the first time. I'm also willing to make a fool out of myself just for her.


    Being a dad is pretty fucking cool.

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  3. FUCK YOU TO DOMESTIC RELATIONS.  It's bad enough that I have to go through this, but the dumb C U Next Tuesday that was calculating my income couldn't figure out how to enter my commissions and tried to stick me at almost $1000 a month for one child.  That would be all fine and dandy, except I don't make THAT good of a living.  That would leave me in debt automatically because my leftover pay wouldn't even pay my bills let alone have any kind of living money. I had to raise a fuss until she could get somebody into help her figure it out, and my payment is now below $300, which is considerably less than what I was paying out of my own pocket for non-ordered court support, so fuck my baby's mom too.


    BTW, I'm still trying to figure out how I still have to pay support if I have joint custody....

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